Yeah, there are the truly obvious negative reasons that I just listed, but some reasons are more subtle than that. Some of them have to do with why men leave women that they actually love. I know, that sounds kind of strange. Why would a man leave a woman that he loves?
Well, I found many reasons why. Here are a few:
Being in a relationship with a guy is intense. Not only are you dealing with your positive feelings for him, which are roller-coaster-ish on their own, but at the same time you’re also having to deal with those idiosyncrasies of his that you didn’t know about or bargain for in the beginning. Not to mention the past emotional issues that being in a relationship with him might trigger.
If you communicate your issues in a healthy way, then it is not a problem. But if you’re the sort of person to hold stuff inside until everything explodes in a destructive mess, then that can be a problem. Especially, if a man is not centered with his own emotions enough to where he can be calm in the midst of your storm and be that rock you desire him to be when your emotions run amok.
If a guy is not centered in his own emotions, or is not even working to learn how to find his emotional center, then that is his fault and his responsibility. However, even a good, stable man can get to a point where he can’t handle the emotions that are being thrown at him. Then he’ll go into a state of what love & relationship expert Christian Carter calls “Emotional Overwhelm.”
If you and your guy can talk about “loaded” topics in a way where he doesn’t get emotionally overwhelmed, then things can progress upward. But if your emotions are constantly running off the rails and he feels anxiety from trying to handle it, that’s where he might think seriously about finding an exit point.
“Neediness” of Co-dependence
This is one of the biggest turn-offs for both men and women alike.
If you give up your work, your hobbies, your friends, and family for the relationship you’re in, that’s seen as “neediness” or codependence. It’s where your relationship is everything to you, and you give up the things that bring you joy and make you… you.